INTRODUCING
Powerful Session of Mapping the Path for the Self-Work of Healing and Growth
Everything you need to know right now and what you need to do yourself to get to the next level of your healing journey.
It’s a bootcamp-intensive online voice call during which we’ll look at the current situation you are struggling with that you want to improve.
We’ll see which strengths, skills, and resources you might not be aware of but already have that you could use.
We will also identify which ones you might be missing that would be strategic to develop.
Together, we’ll decide on the main focus for you right now.
We’ll create a menu of everyday habits and routines to help you grow in your chosen direction.
Access in Times of Decreased Accessibility
Growing awareness of mental health, CPTSD, and narcissistic abuse increases the demand for the assistance of mental health professionals and coaches. This sometimes causes the accessibility to these services to decrease.
More helping professionals are either fully booked or temporarily unavailable because of burnout or the effects of vicarious trauma.
Affordable Help in Moments of Financial Insecurity
Emotional dysregulation and executive dysfunction often impact the daily lives of survivors and their ability to work. That can sometimes affect their financial ability to commit to long-term helping service exactly when they need it the most.
Meaningful Guidance when Time is Scarce
Some people have a schedule too busy or too variable to attend long-term, regular coaching.
Others who are beginning or in the midst of recovery might experience turbulence in their daily rhythm. Their current life circumstances do not provide the stability and predictability necessary to commit to the coaching or therapeutic process on a continuous, uninterrupted basis.
Quick Check-In during Self-Work
Some people simply look for one coaching session or want to have one session at a time instead of booking an entire block. They need only a quick check-in to ask specific questions and ensure they’re on the right track.
Practical Tools during an Ongoing Therapy
People undergoing therapy are usually engaging in a lot of mental processing. When all the hard work is happening in their mind, they sometimes want to anchor their progress with practical self-coaching activities or gain tools to track their recovery progress.
This service was created as a response to the need for one-time, focused, practical guidance for people who are able to and want to do the work themselves for an extended time. It provides direction and a list of actionable steps for people to take every day.
If you believe that with the relevant insight and the right self-effort over time, you can create more emotional regulation, resilience, and much-needed peace and stability, then this might be for you.
A person who values self-help and has a lot of autonomy can be drawn to SSC because it is consistent with their values and personality.
A person with limited time and/or resources to spend on coaching might find SSC to be a practical solution. The high cost and inflexible schedules of long-term coaching can be discouraging, making SSC a more accessible and flexible alternative.
These reasons might occur separately or together, but when they happen, they can serve as a powerful motivation and force for change.
Find guidance to get yourself started on your healing journey.
Get unstuck.
Find the support you need to overcome a specific problem or obstacle. You’re not alone in this journey.
Gain guidance in developing a particular skill or resource.
Do a quick check-in to reassure yourself you’re on the right track in your personal journey.
Develop a relevant plan of action for the next 1 – 6 months of your healing.
I am a certified life coach and hypnotherapist who specializes in narcissistic abuse and CPTSD recovery, and I am also an abuse, trauma, and CPTSD survivor myself.
My knowledge base is not only scientific but also experiential.
During my journey, I went through countless setbacks that made me stuck in apathy and resignation. I tried myriad strategies, techniques, and skills. This allowed me to test which ones worked and which didn’t. Over time, I started combining some and developing my own. Now, I’m here to share all this with you, the lessons from my mistakes and successes, so that you can have it better.
As your sister in survivorhood, I offer you empathy and hope.
I can see your pain, and I can see your courage—the courage it takes to survive the darkness and yet still believe in light—in you and others—the courage it takes to commit yourself to recovery and carry it out. I am here to tell you that you can heal. Recovery from CPTSD and narcissistic abuse is possible. And you can do it, too.
I am a gardener and forester, partner to my loving man, mom to 3 cats, researcher, artist, and writer. Obsessively passionate about self-development, healing, Jungian analysis, depth psychology, NLP, ethnography, folk and new folk music, mythology, business and entrepreneurship, marketing, fitness, yoga, running, weight lifting, neuroscience, books, Vedic astrology, poetry, film, music, storytelling, plants, animals, standup comedy.
I feel best when I’m learning, in a creative flow, or chilling with my partner and our companion animals, talking and laughing.
I love dealing with emotions and forging new, empowering meaning. I am fascinated by the human ability to change the subconscious and unconscious programming of the mind. I support using everyday habits, our physical body, and practical objects to create an environment that induces healing.
INFJ, Introvert/Extrovert
On Booking
Single Session Coaching
Online Voice Call via WhatsApp
You can pick the duration that would be comfortable for you — 30 minutes, 1 hour, or 2 hours. If you go for the shorter time and during the session, you find out you’d like a little bit longer, it’s possible to go overtime. The first 15 minutes are free; after this, every additional 30 minutes will be charged $50 at the end of the session.
During the SSC, you will have the opportunity to discuss your situation and current state, receive emotional, moral, and strategic support, develop greater clarity of your current situation, and receive guidance in which directions to best follow to improve your current life and state.
You will receive ready-to-apply strategies to manage your states and circumstances, and you will be provided with a wide variety of tools and resources to cope with your difficulties, resolve your challenges, and develop skills that will allow you to manage your life circumstances and your emotional and mental well-being effectively.
The resources will be provided as a menu, from which you can choose which ones would serve you best – whether they’d be easiest, or most effective – at the moment. You will be free to use the rest at your own convenience.
After the session
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* Condition: No abuse in any form will be accepted (abuse or threats against the coach or anyone else, including the client’s own wellbeing). In case of abuse, the coach has the right to terminate the session immediately. A session terminated by the coach does not qualify for a refund.
✓ No long-term financial commitment to regular payments for sessions.
✓ No long-term time commitment – you don’t need to show up at regular intervals of time, feeling the pressure that you have to have made significant progress since the last session, otherwise it’s not worth it.
✓ No one-size-fits-all program for everybody to follow – you get tailored support made just for you and your specific situation.
✓ No judgment and accountability pressure – nobody will check in on you to make sure you make enough progress. You do it absolutely in your own tempo.
Phase one: Stabilization and Psychoeducation
Motivation: Resolving Disturbance
In this phase a person is feeling deeply disturbed by the adversity they have experienced. They might also feel disturbed by their responses to it and notice some unhealthy reactions. Helping in resolving these feelings is the domain of the therapist.
What you can do with coaching:
Improving symptom management, self-soothing, and addressing current life stressors will help achieve safety and stability.
You can use coaching in this phase only if you are ready to perform self-work activities independently. For some people, this might be possible, and for some, it may not, and that’s okay.
I also hope you can appreciate that it’s crucial for you to address your feelings and process them so that you can move forward. Coaching at this point can help stabilize you with grounding techniques, but this alone can only take you so far.
Phase two: Trauma Processing
This is trauma-focused work to process traumatic memories, and it can only be done with a therapist.
Motivation: Resolving Disturbance
In this phase, a person feels deeply disturbed by the adversity they have experienced. They might also feel disturbed by their responses to it and notice some unhealthy reactions. This is the domain of the therapist.
Motivation: Resolving Dissatisfaction
In this phase, the person does not have disturbed feelings about the adversity and now feels dissatisfied with it. Addressing these feelings is still the domain of a therapist.
What you can do with coaching:
A coach can help with psychoeducation and addressing life and emotional skills to support yourself in this phase and build stronger foundations for the recovery work to make the results quicker and more lasting.
A coach can also help a person explore different options of a constructive approach, work out a non-self-disempowering meaning of the adversity, identify the limiting thoughts, and challenge them based on the person’s own experience with successfully overcoming significant obstacles or suffering in the past and the person’s unique set of strengths that can help them cope now. These efforts serve the person to change the adversity or constructively adjust to it and move on. The next step is to identify which skills and resources a person could develop to help them overcome the undesired effects of the adversity.
Phase three: Reintegration, Reconnection and Recovery
In this phase, you can work with a coach on re-establishing social and cultural bonds, which will enable greater personal and interpersonal functioning and developmental growth.
Motivation: Development and Personal Growth
In this phase, a person doesn’t have disturbed or dissatisfied feelings about the adversity anymore, but they might have moderate dissatisfaction with where they are in general. They feel there is more to life. They have desires, needs, and wants that they want to meet, and they would like to explore how their past experiences could be holding them back from reaching their full potential. They have the courage and honesty to develop deeper insight and self-awareness to change the inner roadblocks into opportunity and strength. They have a growth-oriented mindset, and they want to maximize it. They want to develop their unique strengths to capitalize on them. They are excited at the possibility of hard work on themselves with a clear outlook on the benefits it will bring them. They seek increased self-awareness, self-direction, self-motivation, and self-leadership skills.
You wouldn’t benefit from this service, and we wouldn’t be a good fit if you have additional diagnoses, i.e., Borderline Personality Disorder, Narcissistic Personality Disorder, or Anti-social Personality Disorder, or symptoms of these.
If you are currently in a severely emotionally dysregulated state or experience suicidal thoughts, I’m sending you love and light, and I strongly encourage you to seek assistance from a licensed mental health professional.
If you are distressed and experience many difficult emotions, you will benefit the most from therapy. I advise against picking up coaching at this point. Coaching is about challenging people to transform and change their situations and aspects of themselves. Coaching might even be re-traumatizing if you’re in a place where you instead need comfort and relief from suffering. I’d encourage you to first seek trauma-informed therapeutic help and consider coaching only when you’re ready to move from self-preservation and establishing a sense of safety to challenging yourself, growing in maturity, and doing some brave work on yourself.
A person’s responses to adversity are distressing but lie within a mild to moderate range of distress.
The person’s emotional problem is limited to a particular situation or aspect of their life.
The person is not defensive concerning the problem.
The person is open to addressing and changing the problem.
Even a brief encounter can be helpful
Much can be achieved if:
What is realistic?
In development-focused coaching, the SSC is a collaborative journey. The goal is to empower the person to set a development-based objective, co-create a pathway towards this objective, and commit to launching this plan. This approach ensures that the person is fully engaged and involved in their own growth.
In problem-focused coaching, the goal is to help the person solve the problem. Sometimes, the person may have solved the problem by the end of the session. Most of the time, however, it is not expected. Instead, the person will likely get unstuck and work towards problem resolution after the session.
The coach helps the person to
The coach also provides them with additional materials and guidance that a person can use as additional external resources to develop new skills.
When the fear of change and what it would take to change becomes smaller than the fear of staying the same.
When ‘I SHOULD do something about it’ becomes ‘I MUST do something about it.’ When you feel ‘I’ve had enough, no more!’
There is a particular gap between not wanting to feel bad anymore and being ready to do anything it takes to actually change it.
When you reach the point of readiness to take action – that’s the perfect time for our session.
The trauma and abuse you’ve experienced was NOT your fault. But taking charge of your recovery is your responsibility.
I see that responsibility as a privilege – if something isn’t up to others but up to you, then you don’t have to wait for somebody’s fancy to get better.
If it’s up to you, then you have the power to do something about it.
You’re not dependent on someone else’s readiness or maturity to help you.
You don’t have to waste your precious time waiting.
You can start doing something right this very moment.
That’s why RESPONSIBILITY BREEDS EMPOWERMENT.
You are here, actively looking for solutions – that’s why YOU are the very reason why your transformation is possible.
I encourage you to prepare for the session under the suggested guidelines to maximize the time spent together.
I also encourage you to take time after the session to:
Continue your work based on the material provided after the session, and keep practicing implementing your new knowledge and resources.
By cultivating self-awareness, you’ll be able to tell when you need to deploy a particular tool.
Why Single Session Coaching for CPTSD
Sometimes, one session of coaching is all that a person requires at a given time or all that a person can currently manage regarding their time or present circumstances.
The content covered during one thorough, focused coaching session allows a person to receive enough material to work on for the next months or to solve their current challenge.
That’s why, for many people, one coaching session is all they want and what allows them to experience much improvement.
Some people also prefer to receive one coaching session and then go on working on their own, at their own tempo, instead of booking a pre-scheduled, recurring block of sessions and completing coaching assignments consistently when their current circumstances don’t allow for such consistency. They’d rather work on their challenge on a more flexible basis.
The Single Session Coaching approach is also a perfect solution for the most common challenges that arise for many people with CPTSD:
CPTSD is a stress response developed often by abuse and abandonment experienced in a relationship. A coaching relationship is a particular kind of relationship where a person (a client) opens up and is being vulnerable in front of another person who is expected to help (a coach). This emotional closeness encourages something that happens in almost all therapies and coaching, called ‘transference’. It’s when a person unconsciously transfers feelings they have in experience with one person onto another one. Freud used to say there are no therapies without transference. More often then not, a person with CPTSD will transfer some of their fears of betrayal of trust or fear of abandonment onto their therapist or a coach. This is the most common reason behind quitting therapy and coaching.
In my experience with long-term collaboration with clients, after the first session, when the collaborative relationship starts, when consistency is required, when a person is given assignments, and the ongoing communication begins, it creates an opportunity for the client to wonder what the coach or therapist thinks of them. It may give rise to worries of being judged. And their experience with abuse received from someone they trusted doesn’t necessarily come to the rescue.
However, the initial session, being the first meeting and, therefore, preceding the creation of a coaching relationship, is a time of mostly positive emotions for the client. It usually creates enormous feelings of being understood, validated, and empowered. It also often produces a sense of clarity, direction, hope, and enthusiasm, which sparks tremendous momentum and motivation to work on oneself.
So, the Single Session Coaching format serves to mitigate the challenges of transference. That’s because ongoing trust is not required, level or regularity cannot be judged by anyone, and the positive effects of the first session sustain their power uninterruptedly. A person stays inspired. They can work away on their own terms, creating improvements, until they encounter a struggle in the process or arrive at a place where they are ready for new input.
Another very common challenge is consistency. For people recovering from abuse and resolving their CPTSD, life is often still very unpredictable, and their availability to do the self-work can be erratic. This inability to stay consistent with pre-scheduled blocks of sessions can create a lot of unnecessary self-doubt. So, even though a trauma-informed therapist or a coach would have an absolute understanding and compassion for this, and they might be able to help the person resolve these doubts, it is still too often so stressful for the person that they frequently quit.
The Single Session Coaching format allows one to avoid this kind of stress until they decide it is the right time to address it. Until then, the person is able to keep doing the work uninterrupted, using the occasional guidance and check-in through Single Session Coaching.
Possible reasons of taking SSC in Complex-PTSD recovery:
A person wants to develop more emotional regulation, coping skills, and communication tools in their relationship or productivity at work and seeks to do it primarily by themselves. However, they also want to have a check-in with a coach to discuss a few issues and develop a reasonable action plan.
A person has just recently learned about narcissistic abuse and received a diagnosis of CPTSD. They want to discuss possible options for a recovery journey, how they could combine therapy with working on their challenges by themselves, and what resources and skills they could currently focus on.
A person is in therapy, but they experience doubts and discomfort about the process. They are not sure if they experience this because of the wrong fit or if the therapy just doesn’t work for them, and they don’t know if they can ask a therapist to change their approach, attitude, or the process. They contact a mental health coach as a second professional to gain clarity on how to communicate their concerns and wishes with their therapist.
A person is receiving therapy, and even though it’s going well, they feel they’d like to see more results and bigger improvements. They contact a mental health coach to talk about what elements of daily routine could improve their mental and emotional state and make them feel more calm, strong, and stable.
A person is receiving therapy or coaching, but they’re currently experiencing an obstacle to achieving their development-based objective. They want to discuss it independently with another mental health coach for help with the obstacle.
A person is in a transitional phase of life where they have to prioritize financially other aspects of their everyday existence. Still, they want to receive a portion of guidance that can allow them to pursue their recovery objectives on their own, receiving enough material for them to continue their work for a couple of months to come.
A person has a particular challenge with their feelings or thoughts about themselves, their relationship, or work and doesn’t think they want to engage in ongoing coaching, with an introduction phase, a trial phase, etc. They feel they can handle it on their own, but they would like to have a one, good conversation with a subject expert, right away, without a lengthy introduction time and without committing to an ongoing process of coaching.
Coaching or Therapy?
Therapy and coaching differ in their areas of focus, with therapy focusing on addressing disturbances, while coaching is geared towards dissatisfactions and personal development. Both provide a supportive environment where individuals can explore their challenges and find solutions, fostering a sense of reassurance and understanding. While therapy focuses on helping people resolve their past, coaching focuses on improving an individual’s life in the now and creating a sustainable action plan for building the future they desire. In CPTSD, abuse, and trauma recovery both are essential.
Should I go to therapy, to coaching, or both?
If you’ve recently started considering the possibility that you might have been a victim of narcissistic abuse and you discover CPTSD, it is a good time to look for trauma-informed therapy and mental health coaching.
There are different things you can expect from both.
A therapist might be a kind, empathetic ear who will listen to you and help guide you through the process of making sense of your feelings, thoughts, and experiences.
Coaching, however, can provide you with a knowledge base about types of abuse and their mechanisms and effects on the person. A coach can help you recognize these effects in you, which can often validate your experience and help you get out of the ‘crazy’ zone (it is common for victims of abuse to consider their responses, feelings, and thoughts as ‘crazy’, instead of natural, although painful response to abnormal circumstances – adversity).
The coach can also help you chart a path through recovery, identify current specific needs that have to be met, and create a good foundation of healthy habits that can stabilize you in this phase of recovery. Often, before we address the most painful experiences in therapy, we need first to build ourselves up, steady the stormy waters, create an environment of safety surrounding us, and build up some strength. A mental health coach can help suggest exercises and daily practices that will build you up and help you feel strong and well enough that it will make processing trauma with your therapist easier.
Interchanging therapy and coaching
Sometimes, when a person is working with a coach towards a coaching objective, they might suddenly experience adversity in their lives that makes them feel very disturbed. Or when facing a new challenge they might encounter resistance stemming from past adversity and its effects. In this situation, it is good to take up therapy where these subjects can be effectively addressed until they are resolved and the person can continue working towards their goal.
Sometimes, a person also feels dissatisfied with the pace of improvement while working with a therapist. There might be various reasons for this.
They might be exploring their past, their thoughts and feelings in therapy, but they might not be addressing current life style choices and habits that might keep them stuck.
They might miss a more proactive approach and developing practical skills to work with their emotions, thoughts, and problems. They might be interested in how daily routine adjustments can improve their overall sense of wellbeing.
They might wonder if they are a good fit with their therapist and be interested in developing communication skills, making requests, assertiveness, and boundary-setting with their therapist. They might want to talk to another professional to discuss what is possible within the frame of therapy and how they can influence it to maximize their results. It is especially relevant when, during therapy, a trust wound is triggered, which in turn triggers a person’s withdrawal (flight) or defensive (fight) trauma response, and doubts about their therapist arise.
